There is not a single shade of shade on the playground, the beach is prone to sunstroke and suffocation, grandmothers have limited strength, tablets, video games and TV are only the last resort, for a few minutes, but the summer vacation lasts for many weeks. And if the parent tries to work in the home office, run errands or cook while the child just “goes off”, he/she will have to fast afterward. In order to prevent the child from resorting to random pranks, it must be tied up according to its age.
The situation at school is the same as at home
In a school environment, the principle is equally true that a teacher must discipline when the class falls apart around him because he is not able to engage the children sufficiently. In this case, the bored child will find a form of pastime that entertains him sufficiently, but this necessarily entails the disintegration of order, since as many of them as there are, they engage themselves in as many ways. Then the teacher realizes that he has lost control, the system has fallen apart, and he is forced to discipline.
WITH A WELL-STRUCTURED LESSON, WITH TASKS AND ACTIVITIES CHOSEN ACCORDING TO THE AGE AND ABILITIES OF THE STUDENTS, AND WITH CONTINUOUS ATTENTION, THIS IS NOT NECESSARY.
Meaningful time: the game as a flow experience
It’s no different at home either. A child experiencing a flow experience will not choose the possibility of mischief, exploring all ways of attracting attention, but will play obliviously and obliviously. Of course, this requires the parent at first, which can provide the parent with a real flow experience, but it also perfectly occupies their time, and the child has more of it during vacation than the parent has during the home office at home.
A cheap solution?
It’s easy to be tempted to give in to the slightest resistance and turn on the TV or put a pill in their hand, and it would be hypocritical to say never, under any circumstances, because it’s completely of the devil. The fairy tale chosen according to their age and level can also serve their development and they can learn from it, but let’s use this solution only in moderation.
The standalone game
A good solution is to get the child used to independent play. In the beginning, of course, the parent is needed for everything, the mother and/or the father play with him, but it is important to give control of the game to the child at an early stage. If this is fulfilled, and the joint play is no longer carried out under the dictation and dominance of the parent, then the transition to independent play will also be smoother. For this, the environment must be designed accordingly. Don’t have too many toys in the front at the same time, because it will confuse the child, rather keep only what he needs in front in relative order. It’s good to do all this on your own, if you don’t have to involve the parent, feel like you can jump this hurdle alone. Furniture and tools that are appropriate for their size can also help these activities, for example, a baby kitchen where you can imitate your parents’ activities with tiny dishes, immediately practicing the routine of care and responsibility, and you can do well on your own, as you sometimes see from one of your parents.
The point when the parent decides it’s time to get used to playing independently can also be a verbalized step, that is, the child will not only say, “Hey, where did they go? “
MONITORING THE GAME IN THE FUTURE, EVEN IF FROM A DISTANCE, REMAINS IMPORTANT, AS DOES ENSURE THAT THE CHILD IS SAFE.
A little older ones can be occupied during the school year with sports, special lessons, musical instrument lessons, vocational classes, talent development, and foreign language learning, offering quality pastimes, while you can also find out which ones you really have a talent for or like, which direction you should take, and what you should focus on in the future. But this should also be handled with care.
THE PARENT SHOULD NOT SEND THE CHILD TO A SPECIAL CLASS BECAUSE HE IS ALREADY BOOKED. AND IT IS NOT THE PARENT WHO HAS TO PROVIDE HIM WITH QUALITY TIME WITH HIS OWN COMPANY.
It’s also not real if we want to raise a polymath out of him, and even with his last free minutes tied up, we spend his last free minutes hopping from sports to languages, from there to musical instruments, because he’ll chip away at himself and won’t have time to be a child.
Be careful though!
Independent play also helps in this, it turns them off and offers an enjoyable pastime suitable for their age, but you have to be on the lookout, and when the parent has been hearing only the suspicious silence for a while, which they already know is never good, then go to the children’s room! And before that, let’s close the windows well, take all potential sources of danger out of his reach, and leave him alone so that we can be calm, there is nothing at his fingertips that he could harm himself with.