It is difficult to make decisions about our lives, as it is usually only much later that it becomes clear whether we have made the right choices, and there are often large-scale consequences if not. An expert will help you make easier decisions about your life at home and at work.

Life is a series of decisions from whether to go back to sleep for another 5 minutes after the morning wake-up, to which pair of socks to pick up, or where to enroll our child in kindergarten, until the time the evening lights go out. The average adult makes about 35,000 decisions a day, yet most of us have a hard time choosing between the possible outcomes. That’s why an American clinical psychologist, Jennifer Guttman, shared her tips to help you make decisions at home and at work.

Making decisions at home

Guttman suggests an exercise to make decisions at home that consists of five questions and only requires notes. It is designed to help you assess the credibility of your home decisions. For each question, you need to determine how you see things right now and how you would imagine a future in which they could work better. You may want to initiate an open discussion about why certain changes are needed. Your decisions can affect more than one member of your family, so you will probably need to discuss the situation several times and find a compromise that works for everyone.

  1. “How can I balance my career and family responsibilities so that I don’t feel like I’m stuck in both?” Be honest with yourself, don’t sweep under the rug the areas where you’re doing poorly. You can also help by discussing this topic with your family or a workplace counselor.
  2. “How can I make decisions that allow me to spend more time on self-care instead of putting the needs of other family members before my own?” Choose a self-care method that you like and include it in your daily routine.
  3. “How can I prioritize doing my homework so I don’t feel overwhelmed and always behind?” Learn to say no, talk honestly about your boundaries, and ask for help. If you want to meet others all the time, sooner or later you will let yourself and others down. You don’t have to be a superhero, just a pretty good person.
  4. “How can I maintain a healthy balance between my friends and family responsibilities?” Focus on creating a comfortable rhythm that meets your own needs and not the expectations of others.
  5. “How can I differentiate between what’s important to me and what others expect of me, while also separating my thinking and decision-making?” Create a mental space for yourself that you won’t let in from outside noise: don’t listen to those who tell you what to do and what to be. If you can protect your space from this, it will be easier for you to understand your authentic self and what is most important to you.

When you’re done with the internship, come back to it in a week: review it, evaluate whether your decision-making process has improved, and make adjustments where necessary to achieve your goals.

Decision making in the workplace

Using the guidelines for home decision-making practice, Guttman suggests considering the following four topics to help you make work-related decisions:

  1. If you don’t find your job satisfactory, ask yourself, “Should I stay in a secure job due to my urgent financial obligations, or should I look for something else?” Don’t make an impulsive, emotional decision, first figure out a strategy for both contingencies. It is always difficult to decide how long to stay in a job and when to look for a new one.
  2. If you don’t feel committed to your field, consider switching. Before deciding if it’s time to change territory, first thoroughly map out your short- and long-term options.
  3. If you’re tired of your daily work schedule and not challenging, try looking for an opportunity for self-fulfillment outside of your workplace. Volunteer or support a project or cause that inspires and inspires you. It can also be stimulating and improve your imposing syndrome.
  4. If you are in higher education and Covid has delayed your training, think about your options: would you miss a year, could you start working right away, or would you finish your training first and apply for some further training? There is no right or wrong decision, choose the one that is best for you.

It can help to keep a diary every day, weighing the pros and cons. Always have something on hand to record your sudden enlightenments. Remember, you know yourself best, only you can assess what will be best for you, so make your decisions away from the noise of the outside world so that you don’t regret your missed opportunities for years to come.


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